It's been a weekend of thinking for me. Just about life. About school, life, relationships, money, etc. Life for me is good. I shouldn't complain or make it seem as bad as I do sometimes. It's all about the perspective I put it in. I have friends, free time, a computer, iPod, music, etc. Sure, there are always things that I would like to have in my life that I think would make it better but I need to remember that maybe they wouldn't. Would a new Mac Pro actually make my life easier or simpler? No. But man, that would be awesome to have, right?
I guess to put relationships in perspective I will use this line from "Timshel" by Mumford and Sons. "But I can't move the mountains for you." As much as I want to date person A or B I should realize that, while they would make my life better, more interesting and probably make me happier in general, they can't do everything. They can't put money in my bank account, give me good grades or get me closer to my friends on the weekends. I have too many expectations for people in my life sometimes. I think that a certain person can make me happier all the time when I should know better. I DO know better but I get blinded by the fact that people are always looking for companionship.
Having those lofty expectations will sink a relationship in the end. Thinking that someone can do too much for you puts them in a position they can't win. If I told you that you are the only thing that makes me happy, what happens if you are having a bad day and just can't make others happy? When you need someone to make YOU happy. We all have those days, right? I've done this many times and I've come to understand that it's the most unhealthy thing in a relationship. It's so hard just to enjoy the fact that a person is there, and you can enjoy their company and friendship. Because isn't that the point of being in a relationship? At one point you realized that you were such good friends that you wanted there to be more.
I guess the point of this entry is to just remember that your significant other can't move mountains for you, asking them to do that is unfair to both of you. It's selfish. It's hard to enjoy something that has become a common occurrence and something you take for granted. How easy is it to forget that feeling of getting a text and hoping it's her/him? How easy is it to forget knowing that someone is always there for you, no matter what? When you get that feeling, don't let it go. Because one day, you'll sit here like I am, wishing for that feeling, but also knowing that it can't move your mountains, but it can always help you move them.
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